“I wish you would be more submissive,”
“You’re doing so much I can’t keep up,”
“You need to be more feminine,”
These are phrases I’ve heard from men in my past that used to trigger the toots** out of me... until I became aware of toxic masculinity and misogyny in our culture.
As we continue to dissect, study and activate our Divine Feminine (yin) and Divine Masculine(yang) energies, it’s important to note trends, societal norms and the cultural context of our dialogue.
Something I personally have been witnessing is a fear of the masculine energy.
Due to such an imbalance in part towards excessive masculine energy within our society, our community has been focusing on channeling the Divine Feminine maybe even moreso, in an effort to find balance.
And while I think that’s a beautiful way to move the pendulum, I believe we who identify as women or Divine Feminines are beginning to fear our Divine Masculine energy.
In some ways, I think this comes from toxic masculinity. In media studies and also in academia, toxic masculinity refers to cultural norms that tie men to violence, harmfulness, sex (in unbalanced, unhealthy ways), status and aggression; which harms ALL of us, including those who identify as men.
Toxic masculinity conditions us to ignore our feelings, disallowing them in men, period; and frowning upon women when they show them, suggesting they are “weaknesses,” or even "make women unfit for office."
Toxic masculinity entraps us in a cycle of egotism, the desire for “status,” or “fame,” as a source of power and influence versus impact and service.
Toxic masculinity creates a society whereas its inhabitants believe they must do EVERYTHING on their own.
And this toxic masculinity creates an environment where we fear the internal masculine and its beautiful potential for expression, for fear of moving into that excessive energy as described.
The Divine Masculine is none of those things.
The Divine Masculine energy encourages presence, routine, structure, AND balanced emotions.
The Divine Masculine energy helps us create the very boundaries we need to actually dissect and study our innermost emotions.
The Divine Masculine energy allows us to navigate the physical realm of responsibility, do-ing, and tangible efforts. It refers to our analytical mind, forward planning and strategy.
To dim the light of the Divine Masculine is not only a disservice to the Divine Feminine within, but also to the outer society.
We must find a way to channel and activate the sacred Divine Masculine within us, first; to create the harmony we seek.
- Do I have fear around the Divine Masculine, and if so where does it come from? Does it come from my experiences with toxic masculinity? Have I been conditioned to be “less masculine?”
- How can I set better boundaries within myself and with others?
- How can I co-create with both of my internal energies to find balance and harmony?
- How can I activate my inner Divine Masculine to drive forward towards pursuing my goals and dreams with conscious awareness and keeping integrity with myself, my heart space and the vision I hold for the world?
Don’t fear your inner-masculine. It is here to support you.