Alpha Women Impact Event Recap

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I had such an amazing time at my first Alpha Women Impact Event on Thursday night. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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A huge THANK YOU to my friend Nafiska for inviting me to come with her, Iva Velkosvska for setting up a beautiful, welcoming and intimate space for soul conversation and connection; Shira kane for reminding us that “inclusivity” is more than just a buzz-word and Rebecca Boatman for making us dive deep on what it is we want in a romantic partner/partnership, and what obstacles we place in our way to attracting them. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

My Takeaways from Iva:

• Today we have all of the communication tools necessary to connect at our fingertips, and yet⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ we lack authentic relationships in our 3D worlds. We need to prioritize connection, because doing so creates transformation in our communities and within ourselves. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
  
• ⁣⁣⁣⁣We should AMPLIFY other women⁣. Amplifying other women is empowering to them, ourselves and our communities. If you see a woman in your life hustling — maybe she is working several jobs to support her children, maybe she is starting her own business, maybe she is going back to school. Whatever it is she is doing, AMPLIFY her. Share her flyer for her event on social media. Venmo her a few dollars for her morning coffee. Text her on the morning of her important presentation. AMPLIFYING the women around us doesn’t require much energy and can really make a difference in her life. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
  

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⁣ My Takeaways from Shira:
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• When it comes to inclusivity, do the best you can with what you know and when you know, do better. ⁣⁣⁣
  
• ⁣⁣This message really struck a chord with me. I think it’s so important to realize and acknowledge that when it comes to inclusivity, we’re going to fuck up every now and then. As a cisgender, middle class, heterosexual Latina woman living in California who passes for white most of the time — I’m never going to understand how a transgendered black woman in a different socioeconomic class and geographic location feels. I’m never going to intuitively know how some of the things I do in my day to day life could be offensive to her, her culture or her identity. But when and if she opens up to me and brings it to my attention, it is my duty to listen to her and then DO BETTER. ⁣⁣⁣
  
• ⁣⁣⁣When someone calls us out on something we did or said that was offensive to them we must listen first without responding. ⁣⁣⁣
  
• ⁣⁣⁣We can STAND UP & SHOW UP for others. ⁣⁣
  

⁣⁣This was my biggest takeaway from the event. In a time where individuals have to hold rallies, protests and marches to proclaim that their lives matter — we MUST not only listen to them, but stand up and show up for them. ⁣⁣⁣
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Throughout my two and a half years of going to college on Long Island I struggled a lot with being exposed to a lot of different political viewpoints. I was raised in a majority white neighborhood, but racism was sparse. In general, my neighborhood was made of mostly upper middle class white people who loved L.L.Bean moccasins, Dave Matthews Band & Bernie Sanders. ⁣⁣⁣
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When I moved to Long Island I was exposed to racism and prejudice for the first time. Of course, not everyone on Long Island is racist. But did you know that the area where dejure segregation is most prominent in the U.S. is Nassau County? ⁣⁣⁣
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I attended several political rallies during my time on Long Island in the city as a student journalist. I really struggled with understanding where I fit into the landscape. I was actually kicked out of a party for writing an article saying Black Lives Matter. ⁣⁣⁣
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And something that really confused me then, and still does, is the reluctance of some individuals to simply just sit and listen to one another and what they have to say. ⁣⁣⁣
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As a student reporter at the time I felt I had built a pretty solid reputation just from listening to people without interruption. At first it was hard to listen to the opinions or beliefs of others which differed so greatly from mine, but I realized later on that it was essential for me to develop my own belief systems and know how to communicate them with those around me in a respectful way. ⁣⁣⁣
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⁣So, if we stand up and show up for marginalized groups — while also listening to those who disagree with us — and also listening to those who have been hurt by our words and actions — MAYBE we can create a more harmonious world. Can’t hurt to try, right?⁣⁣
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My biggest takeaways from Rebecca:

• ⁣The biggest obstacles which prevent us from attracting our dream partner or relationship are those we create ourselves⁣
  
• There is nothing wrong with being a successful woman. We must not dim our light for a man’s to shine. By stepping into our own power we can attract a man who is vibrating at our own level or frequency. Successful women do not naturally propel men (or any gender of their ideal partner), they propel men when they are insecure of their success. ⁣
  

• It is more than OK to set an intention for your dream partner. While we should not judge anyone for not being “the one” we desire, we don’t have to settle for anything less. ⁣
  

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