How do you balance flow with action?
There’s been a lot of chatter on IG about the masculine/feminine energies (like a lottt). Researchers are now studying their roles in areas outside of spirituality such as business, education and gender norms.
See, the masculine, yang energy is not really about wearing a suit or driving a sports car; and the feminine, yin energy is not really about wearing beautiful dresses and bearing children.
Both of these energies actually naturally exist within us — they don’t need to be sought after or purchased at a store.
Typically, just as our physical bodies (flexibility, strength) are asymmetrical, so is our energy body and balance of feminine and masculine energies.
In business, the feminine and masculine energies appear because, well everything is energy. Matter cannot be created nor destroyed. All of these things we “know” point us in this direction of thought. Right?
And so, the left side of the pendulum swing, the “excessive” or unbalanced feminine energy, lives too much in the “flow” state. They may create content 24/7 with no concrete plan on how to share it, how to target audiences, how to create systems for client outreach. They are beautiful multitaskers, but almost to a fault — as they can put their energy into too many projects at once and burn out, or lose touch with what exactly they want to manifest.
The right side of the pendulum swing, the “excessive” or unbalanced masculine energy, lives too much in the “action” state. They are so focused on systems, policies, and driving that they neglect the natural nature of innovation. Innovation cannot be planned nor systemized — at least at the birth stage of an idea. Creative energy needs space to flow, to create and to be shared. Some of the best ideas did not come from a systematic programming or as answers from a poll. They came about when groups of creatives came together and brainstormed, or an individual like Eckart Tole had a sudden awakening on a park bench.
And so these energies exist within us, and in business, we can study the energy body and use it to our advantage. Especially if you are a new solo business owner like myself, it’s important we integrate these two energies within us, to stay balanced and to create more harmony in our inner world and in our businesses.
Here are 3 ways to balance your masculine and feminine energies when it comes to your business.
1. GET SOME SYSTEMS IN PLACE!
OK. This is definitely directed at me, lol.
Those of us heavily in our divine feminine energy, NEED systems in place. We create so so much amazing, beautiful content; perhaps we focus a lot on our design, our website layout, our logos, etc. but we need systems to make better use of our time. At the end of the day, no matter how beautiful of a creation you make, if you don't have a way to share it with potential clients or your community, it won't be seen by anyone.
Same goes with communication. People with excess feminine energy are amazing at connecting with others. But when you're talking about potential clients, it's important to organize who you are connecting with. My recommendation? Create a spreadsheet with all of your leads, date of contact, and message sent. Then you can go back to it when and if you need to initiate a second point of contact.
Same with your content. I'm not a big fan of content calendars, BUT, a general structure could help. (I.e., post your podcast every Thursday, newsletter every Friday, IG post every day at 9 a.m....etc.) This way you don't crush your creativity with too much forward planning, but you do enough to allow yourself to create more and have your creations be seen....this leads me to my next point...
2. SCHEDULE FLOW
Flow flow flow... flow. Flow is ESSENTIAL for creativity! If you aren't flowing, you're not created. People can SMELL a salesperson from a mile away. What is there to sell if you don't have a creative or innovative product to provide people? Who wants to see ANOTHER gluten-free, organic peanut butter? (You get my point).
Innovation breeds creativity, and creativity breeds innovation. So, schedule time for "flow." Maybe you work on your systems, sales calls, spreadsheets and administration 9-5 on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. And then Tuesdays and Thursdays you "flow" 9-12 and work 12-5.
What is flow?
Flow is whatever allows you to create! Maybe you go to a park and sit down. You meditate and you journal a brainstorm of potential ideas for the month. Projects you want to complete. THINK BIG! You want to write a book? Cool. Jot that down. Give a Ted Talk on something outside of your career field? STILL WRITE THAT DOWN! Don't judge yourself, just keep a running list of creative ideas. They could be useful later on, and don't arise typically if you're too stuck in your routine/systems.
3. SCHEDULE FUN
This is definitely something I need to do too. We need to have fun. Yes, the "grind" isn't always a bad thing. We all know we create our legacies by how we spend our time outside of the office, how we conduct our evenings and early mornings. But we also need to have fun. Let's face it, stress causes malignancy. It shortens our lifespan. What's the point of making a larger income or creating connections if we don't use them to have fun too?
So schedule at least one day or night a week for just fun! No business. No studying. You can have intellectual conversations sure. I'm not saying to turn your brain off. BUT, have fun! Whether that's date night with your partner or going to a sporting event with friends, rock climbing, bowling, going to a concert, going out on the town, trying a new yoga or dance class, doing some self-care.
Above all else, enjoy life. And remember, you can achieve harmony on your own. Look and see where there may be an imbalance in your energy, and try to find balance, it will sincerely help you in more ways than you even know and help you unlock and unleash your divine magic within.
- Jess Winans
Jess Winans is a feminine confidence coach, spiritual life coach and yoga teacher currently located in San Diego, CA. You can reach her via email at email@example.com.
My yoga practice saved my life...
No but seriously it did.
Who I was 3 years ago wouldn’t recognize the woman I am today.
She was so so lost. Consumed with consumerism, alcohol and drug consumption, excessive dating.
She was constantly moving, not towards anything special on the horizon but away from everything — her demons, her past, her present.
Before yoga I was alone.
Constantly surrounded by others but always feeling isolated. I was trying to fill my void(s) with everything and anything outside of myself.
Then, I found yoga.
I selfishly began practicing yoga because I thought my long-distance running for exercise was “making me fat.” So I bought an intro offer at a local hot yoga studio back home in NY.
I had no idea how spiritual yoga was, what spirituality even was, and definitely could not have told you what the hell a “savasana” was.
My first class I nearly fainted from heat and I stepped outside. My teacher followed me out of the room later on when students were holding a pose. She looked at me and said “you need to stay in the room, even if you feel faint. It’s important for you to stay with the energy in the room. Don’t hide yourself.”
Right then I knew I had found something really special.
And so, my yoga practice began. I began practicing practically every day, staying-in Friday nights to go to a 7pm class and rest for the 6am on Saturday. I started researching crystals, then chakras, then meditations.
And of course it was pretty freaking messy at first. My body took time to adjust to me loving it. I remember one class in particular I was SLIDING all over my mat because I was so sweaty. So I stepped off my class then SLID almost into a split during a wide-legged forward fold (my teacher had to cue me specifically out of it in front of the whole class. Lol. )
When I moved to San Diego, before I did anything else I signed up for a yoga studio down the street from my house, where I ended up doing my Yoga Teacher Training. There, again, I practiced pretty much every day or whenever I could.
And of course “life got in the way” again, I took a long break (longest was six months) and found myself back in that space ready to learn more, and teach others.
Yoga is like your twin flame, your soulmate. — You think you’re done with it. You focus on other things. And then one morning (like today) it hits you — you roll out your mat and start again.
I always think back to who I was back then, before my yoga practice.
I sometimes wonder if I would’ve ever made it — if I would’ve recovered from an eating disorder (my yoga practice helped me reconnect to my body, and encouraged me to find help and treatment), if I would’ve ever committed to MYSELF and taken a year off from dating of any kind, if I would’ve found my spiritual practice, if I would’ve moved to San Diego, if I would’ve ever unpeeled those layers of my being that weren’t me.
Every single time I chose yoga over drugs, meditation over alcohol, faith over fear and unconditional love and compassion for myself over hatred and self-sabotage I heal not only myself but those around me. And it feels really freaking good.
Lately I’ve been focusing on my biz, school and teaching so much so I’ve neglected my personal practice. Yesterday I left an audition at a new studio so grounded and so peaceful.
This morning I woke up with a headache and my instinct was to take some medication and drink coffee like I might’ve in the past. But this time, I’m stronger. Now, I‘m wiser.
And so I followed my intuition and wrote this, and next I will turn on some funky-jams and allow myself to practice.
I used to always ask myself this question and today badass spiritual babe Stephanie asked me something similar.
She said that she was nervous to get into “influencing” because she doesn’t want to be self-centered or fake.
She, like us all, have definitely met people who are entirely different in-person versus on social media. I get it. We all know that person. And it’s not really his/her/their fault — it’s the paradigm of thought which pressures us with Instagram marketing rubbish and tells us if we don’t have thousands of followers or likes, our voice isn’t important.
So people have to adapt to that, right? That’s where the disconnect lies. I believe we’re all waking up though. I saw an amazing post by Chelsea Lauren yesterday with her sweatpants and coffee showing us her hustle and what it REALLY looks like.
I sent a few coaching videos in my Ultravioletly Aligned Badass Spiritual Babe group chat this morning still in my bed in my PJs because that’s how I began my day.
So is it narcissistic to post about yourself on social media?
The quick answer is NO.
The longer answer is...no. Not if you post WHAT’S AUTHENTIC TO YOU & WHO YOU REALLY ARE — instead of a false persona of you.
Does that mean you can’t get professional photos done, check your spelling and grammar and maybe tag some local businesses or influencers in your posts? No...
But, your words, your captions, your blogs — honey those need to come FROM YOUR HEART not your wallet. We can smell a salesperson from a mile away, we can taste fake and false personas.
My advice: post whatever photo you want, bonus points if it’s unedited and natural, in a natural setting, of you BEING YOU.
As far as captions go, this is where you should be AS AUTHENTIC AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE.
If God/the universe blessed you with good genes (cmon guys you know what I’m talkin about) or a good photographer, or a good eye then heck yea use that to your advantage to grab people’s attention so they will read your words.
Your voice is what really matters.
Photo by Ashley Kaplan
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IT'S TIME TO CONNECT!
Be yourself love, embody your spirituality. It’s beautiful. You are who you are for a reason. If there’s something you’re thinking, an idea or a perspective or just something you want to say but are too scared to — SAY IT! Chances are someone on the other end needs to hear it.
I woke up this morning with so much gratitude in my heart for all of the deep, meaningful soul connections I have in my life.
I remember when I first started my spiritual journey I was so scared I was alone. Scared I was the only person who saw the universe the way I did — the only person who saw we were all one, the only person who saw divine guidance and energy, who felt how others felt just by being near them.
I was so scared that when I told my friends about chakras, the energy body, or the moon cycles, or sacred geometry, or the pain body, or manifestation, or yoga, or meditation that they’d think I was completely crazy. That they’d leave me.
Because who wants to chat about the universe at a bar? I thought to myself.
So for a long time I completely isolated myself, besides a couple of really close friends.
At the time I was working three jobs so I would keep busy working and then hiking alone. I would come home from a long day and journal for hours alone, scared to connect.
Then one day I decided to change the narrative. I decided my spirituality was a blessing meant to be shared.
I started looking up, making eye contact with people around me, I started making friends, I started smiling again, laughing again.
The best part?
When I started letting that spirituality “slip out” in conversations, I realized I wasn’t alone — a lot of people actually felt the same way, and the ones who didn’t respected what I had to say.
It’s been too long, stop hiding your voice, stop dimming your light. We all need to see and hear your magic.
ULTRAVIOLET CHANGE SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX AND SERVICE CHALLENGE:
This week I brought applesauce for my friend who sits outside in liberty station. Every Sunday he sits and sells jewelry, and I noticed most people walk right past him and don’t notice him.
I remember speaking with him a few weeks ago about how he was hungry, but had no teeth because he lost his dentures. When I gave him the applesauce we chatted and he said he felt like people didn’t see him, and he just wanted $5 for lunch. I felt bad, as I told him I really had no cash but I was happy to buy him the applesauce. Sure enough, a little girl went up to his jar and put $6 in right after. It was honestly such a beautiful moment and I’m so thankful for his beautiful soul and the beautiful light in that little girl.
Ready to join the challenge? Post a photo with the hashtag UltravioletChange about how you will serve someone else this week, and I’ll share your post on my page!
𝘛𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘙𝘖𝘈𝘋 𝘓𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘝𝘌𝘓𝘌𝘋...✨
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again — never fear the road less traveled.
From the moment we’re born we’re given a to-do list — what we should wear, how we should speak, what we should look like, where we should go to school (If we should go to school), what we should study, what professions are acceptable/unacceptable, how we should behave, what we should eat, how we should date, what religion we should believe (if any) etc.
And of course some of us try to fit into those molds society places on a pedestal. We strive towards goals (which may or may not be actually authentic to our priorities, skill sets, needs and personalities,).
Some of us avoid the mold all together, maybe we choose to leave society or ignore the rules and do our own thing.
The smartest option? The road least traveled — using the societal mold to your advantage and picking/choosing aspects of it you ACTUALLY resonate and want to implement in your life.
For example, let’s say you go to college (remembering your privilege in doing so). You ditch the ideal “career” or “major” and study what you like (maybe a “taboo” major like music, Art, history, women’s studies, dance, journalism...). Then you begin reading and studying many religions and spiritual belief systems and adopt some aspects of each one you like (a little bit of Buddhism, a little bit of Christianity, a little bit of atheism, a little bit of Hinduism). Then you begin researching political parties and you form your own thoughts and beliefs (a little bit of liberalism, a little bit of conservatism), Then you begin researching diet and exercise and form your own routines (a little bit of weight lifting, a little bit of yoga, a little bit of laying on the couch...)
Do you see where I’m headed with this?
I have some tough love for you : STOP TRYING TO FIT YOURSELF IN A BOX! Stop labeling yourself. Stop limiting yourself. Stop stereotyping yourself and those around you.
Ditch your ego, ditch your identity. Ditch your identity find yourself. — it’s that easy!
The road less traveled is bumpy, windy and twisty.
But with it comes individual thought, virtue.
Allow yourself peace + purpose. You are so worthy of it.
This week's full moon in Aries had me feeling all types of ways (did anyone else feel the intense energy?)
This past full moon was all about relationships, learning and growing through our own introspection but also through our interpersonal relationships (friendships, familial, romantic, work...)
It reminded us that inner-work is done not only through solitude but also through relationships. We learn through how we connect with others.
This Aries moon also reminds us to step into our power. As it falls in first zodiac sign, it symbolizes a new chapter or cycle and a new opportunity to try something new, something that excites us and ignites our fire.
Many of us are going through huge transformations right now. That's because as a society we are going through a shift in consciousness, trading out what no longer serves us (obsession with money, status, image) for what really matters (deep relationships, love, happiness, peace).
Are you going through a transformation right now?
Here's how you can navigate your transformation and become a "genius transformer"
How do you know you’re in alignment...?
When things fall into place. When things stop feeling so “hard,” when your worst-case-scenario story in your head is proven false. When you can breathe.
I truly believe the universe sends you struggles to force you into alignment. Obviously, we must work hard for the success we desire. But grinding in alignment feels ENTIRELY different than grinding against the grain, or grinding towards what isn’t meant for you.
Yesterday I was blessed with beautiful opportunity, but some chaos and confusion as well. Plans were canceled, rearranged. Transportation was disorganized. Communication was complicated.
But instead of crashing against my circumstances, I decided to flow with them. The result? Beautiful connection with strangers, several synchronicities, amazing opportunities and a deepening of my connection with those around me.
Being in alignment doesn’t mean everything looks perfect on paper. It means really truly feeling peace at any given moment, knowing you’re on the right path.
I challenge you to find a way to flow with life instead of crash against it. Next time something “goes wrong” unplug, look up from your phone, look away from your perception of unpleasant circumstances and realize the beauty around you in the sky’s blue hue, the bright sun shinning on your face, the sound of your footsteps, the smile from a stranger and this gift of life.
Photo by Katharine Spriggs.
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Sometimes I’m inauthentic…
I’m always preaching authenticity, vulnerability and revealing your natural self to the world.
But sometimes, im inauthentic. Whether it’s posting an inspirational quote on Instagram when I’m feeling uninspired, or curating my feed to follow a certain pattern, or trying to develop a preset for my photos, or creating a content calendar...sometimes I cheat a little.
Today, especially if you work or study in the social media field like I do, we are given an array of mixed messages. One line of thought is that we should strategize our content carefully, to increase our number of subscribers or follower count, or to gain more clientelle and sell more of our products.
Another is that we should be vulnerable, show our “human” sides. Celebrities like Chrissy Tiegan and politicians like Alexandria Ocasio Cortez demonstrate this social media strategy. The reasoning behind that content marketing strategy is to attract consumers from “being yourself” and creating a tie with them that way.
The problem with either or both of these strategies is they are, in a way, inauthentic.
Social media as a whole could be seen as inauthentic, but I do think it serves as a connector between individuals, communities and ideologies.
I am not anti-social media, actually I really love it.
I’ve seen it serve as the vehicle to overthrow oppressive regimes such as that which fell down in Tunisia during the Arab Spring. I’ve seen it serve as the vehicle for social change and a platform for social messages such as #BlackLivesMatter and #MeToo among others. I’ve seen entrepreneurs, healers and activists use social media as a platform to build communities and inflict positive change.
Should we use social media? My answer to that question is a big fat YES. Should we be authentic and vulnerable on social media? YEA. But should we strategize our social media usage…? That’s a question I’m unsure of.
All I know is I’m ready to break the chain, to ditch my “content strategy” and allow myself to truly be a vehicle for love and light, trusting my intuition, trusting my connection with God/source/myself, and trusting that whatever comes out of my mouth, keyboard or pencil is not only what I need to say, but what needs to be heard.
What do you think about social media content strategies? Comment your honest opinion below. Let’s start a dialogue.
I got into a car accident today.
I was driving down the highway and the car in front of my hit their breaks, I slammed into them.
I’ve been here before, I thought as I calmly put my car in park and turned off the engine.
Placing both hands on my heart I remembered I was alive, I was OK.
The last time I got into a car accident, I could’ve died. My car was totaled. At the time I was living in New York and I wasn’t mentally, physically or emotionally healthy. I was riddled with toxic behaviors and negative self-talk which manifested an undesirable reality.
That day I made the decision to change my life, to drop everything and move to California.
Before my accident this morning I had a whole post planned for today about gratitude. I woke up this morning feeling peaceful and rooted in my faith. I’ve been surrounded by synchronicities lately — divine guidance — and had a serious breakthrough moment last night.
Last night in class I welcomed my three students, all three of whom I’d met from divine synchronicity, with so much love, light and warmth. I allowed myself to sink into who I was, remove the blankets of limitations I had been wearing since my teacher training ended in May.
Facing rejection from my teachers and questioning from strangers, some friends and some family had been weighing heavily on my heart.
And while I had done all of the “right things” before teaching class — meditating, grounding, reiki, preparing a plan, creating a playlist, arriving on time — as I was teaching I was scared. I was self conscious that I wasn’t “doing it right,” or that they wouldn’t resonate with the divine messages pouring out of me.
I was proven wrong at the end of class, showered with positive feedback and love. Not only that but the truly spiritual conversation that followed class between my three students, who had all practically been strangers to one another, and myself was a divine message in itself that I’m truly grateful for.
I spoke to my partner after class about how I was feeling and I realized that it was not only lack of gratitude for my current situation, but fear-based emotions and insecurities that had been following me through. I remembered in that moment, that I was enough. That this was my journey, my mission and my purpose. That teaching these beautiful souls was my calling.
I remembered how I felt the day I crashed my car for the first time and decided to move here. I remembered how I felt the day I fainted and woke up with a concussion on a concrete floor, and how I felt that evening in the MRI machine when I decided I’d be a yoga teacher.
I remembered how I felt when I met Ariel, a traumatic brain injury survivor and visually impaired yoga teacher following my concussion, someone who has become one of my best friends and guides on my journey.
I remembered how I felt when I began opening up to those around me, creating friendships and partnerships, receiving support and love from family, allowing myself to trust my teachers, guides and relationship with God.
I remembered how my intuition brought me there, to that studio space I share with an absolute angel, that studio space on Main Street in downtown La Jolla, that studio space I can call my own for a few hours a week.
I remembered my gift and my offering of the gift of yoga and spiritual connection that I can now pass along to whoever comes into my space.
I remembered the look on my students faces after class, the ease in their steps, the lightness in their frames.
And I felt truly truly grateful.
I wasn’t going to post today, I had planned on taking the day completely off from social media.
But as this message came to me I realized someone may need to hear it.
If you’re still reading know that you are a beautiful soul on a beautiful mission. You can’t control everything that happens to you but you must remember everything happens for a reason. You are here to live a beautiful life and everything you desire is here for you. Every bump in the road, every perceived roadblock is not meant to hurt you, it’s meant to place you on the right path.
Do I know what the hell I’m going to do about my car? Absolutely not. But what I do know is I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, nourishing food in my belly, a healthy mind, body and spirit; beautifully healthy and balanced relationships with those around me, love in my heart and the wisdom, knowledge and courage to help others.
That to me is worth more than any car or material good.
Our Sacral Chakra is our second energy center located around our pelvic region. It is orange and color and serves as the hub for our creative energy, malleability, sexuality and ease.
If our Root Chakra reminds us we’re alive, our Sacral Chakra reminds us that the human experience is a beautiful one — one to be enjoyed, treasured and loved.
When it is over/under active we may experience creative blocks (ex. Writer’s block), lack of focus, sexual dysfunction/excessive sexual energy, trust-issues and anxiety.
When our Sacral Chakra is balanced we feel calm, relaxed and in alignment. We feel like we’re flowing with life instead of crashing against it, and find ease in our creative projects, relationships with others and relationship with ourself.
Here are 5 ways to balance your Sacral Chakra:
1. HIP-OPENERS — Hip-opening yoga postures are beautiful ways to balance your sacral chakra, as it is one of your emotional centers in your body. Yoga poses such as supine pigeon, 1/2 pigeon, king pigeon, 3-legged dog with an open hip and warrior I, among others are a great way to start. Even your basic "criss-cross applesauce" pose from elementary school is a great way to open your hips.
2. DANCE — Put on your favorite music and dance! Dancing, especially swaying your hips, helps balance your sacral chakra by releasing tension in the hip-area, and in general. In life we get so caught up in in our routines, rigid timelines and to do lists, that we forget in order to manifest our desires; life-force needs to FLOW THROUGH us. Allow energy to flow through you as you dance.
3.MEDITATION — Meditation is a key tool to balancing all of your chakras, but especially for the sacral chakra it is vital to allow your body to relax and to allow your natural energy to flow through you. Using crystals such as cornelian, orange citrine, moonstone and tiger's eye can enhance your meditation. Sit in a cross-legged seat with your eyes close and repeat the words "I flow through life" or "Creativity flows through me." Allow the words to flow throughout your frame.
4.GET CREATIVE — Get creative! Paint, draw, write poetry, journal, make music, sing, dance, sculpt, design. GET CREATIVE! Remember, life is NOT just about making money! It's not just about surviving! It's about doing the things you love, the things that add a jump to your step, lightness in your heart and a smile from your face.
5.GIVE YOURSELF SOME SELF LOVE— Dedicate some time each day, or at least each week for self love. "Self love" or "self care" activities such as splurging on a meal or buying a nice lotion or getting a manicure/massage is a privilege many world-wide will never have access to. So, if you are able to splurge a little on self-care, DO IT! Something we can all do is be nice to ourselves. Repeat positive affirmations such as "I am light," "I am life," or "I am powerful," or "I am peaceful," can help you tune your sacral chakra.